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Figure 5-1
"True" Polarities |
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Figure 5-2
Bipolarities
Source: From Steven J. Hendlin, Ph.D., The Discriminating Mind: A Guide to
Deepening Insight and Clarifying Outlook, London: Unwin Hyman, 1989.
Used with permission. |
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Here love and hate are very close, and the same energy that had gone into loving behavior can turn and viciously take the form of hate. Often, even while in the middle of these emotional battles, there is a conscious or unconscious hope that the other will come back and desire to love them again. |
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Rather than either/or thinking, these bipolar emotions fit more easily into what we call both/and thinking. We can both love and hate our partner, depending on what they may evoke from us. |
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The concept here is simply that many pairs of emotions that may first appear to be total opposites, when examined more closely, end up being intimately related because of the emotional energy they share. They approach each other because of this common intensity of energy but don't become each other. The flavor of love certainly isn't the same as hate and never will be. |
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How is this concept of bipolarity relevant for balancing fear and greed? |
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The feeling of fear of loss that we feel when we make a trade is not far from the desire we feel for wealth and possessions. |
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